Young Bride

When I first read the headline, "9 year old bride walks down aisle in Dallas, Texas" my first thought was what kind of horrible parents let/force their 9 year old to get married??? But then I watched the accompanying video and proceeded to bawl my friggin eyes out. It's the story of a little girl battling luekemia who's battle will end in the next couple of weeks and her only wish was to get married so she did....watch but make sure you have kleenex!!!

http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/us/2009/02/24/diaz.tx.9.year.old.wedding.wfaa

Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice

Last Thursday we had an ultrasound done.
Though baby was quite modest and kept legs with knees together most of the time, the ultrasound tech said that when she did get a peek that she thought it's a girl!

We have a 3D ultrasound booked for April 25th...I can't wait!!!

Half-Baked

Well, 20 weeks today! Half way there and it feels like yesterday that I was peeing on sticks just to see those two pink lines!!!

It's amazing, every day I grow more connected to this little life that's growing inside me. I have less worry about not having a big enough heart to love all of these children. I still worry about the birth and what will happen...I'm scared something may happen to me or my uterus but I try not to dwell too much...there's nothing I can do until that time comes and it's still 20 weeks away!

I have still not heard from the court house as to whether they'll approve my request for an urgent motion so that I won't be held in contempt of court when I don't do "my share" of the driving each weekend. By Friday it won't matter anymore and the worst part is I know that even if they do call by then it won't be until next week that we get in there at which point AGAIN it won't matter. Though the boy doesn't want to go this weekend anyway and will stay home so I won't TECHNICALLY be "deliberatley disobeying the court order"...the D-bag told the boy that it's up to him when he comes now and he doesn't want to go because he doesn't want to help them move. Last weekend when he picked him up he asked if he could have him Thursday night until the following Monday and keep him out of school on the Friday and the boy spoke up and said, "Why so I can help you move?" and the D-bag said yes. I don't think that's very fair really....he's barely there and then he has to help them pack and clean and move everything??? Not a very fun kind of "spending time with my dad" kind of weekend.

And then there's the fact that he came home from last weekend and told me that the D-bag's girlfriend told him that he's not allowed to bring his Nintendo DS anymore...I swear they're trying to make him NOT want to go anymore.

He also said that she told him that if he gets all C's again on his next report card he'll be grounded there. It really burns my ass when they say shit like that...that is NOT positive reinforcement. When the boy came home with a report card that looked like that I asked him what he thought. He said he wasn't happy with it. I told him that if he wasn't happy with it then he needed to try his best to get better grades. I did NOT punish him...I don't think that's the way to handle stuff like that and it is discouraging to a child, especially in the middle of the term, reports are due to go home in a month. Now he's going to worry about what his report is going to look like until he gets it...it's not right. If the boy would just buckle down and do the WORK that's given to him he'd get amazing grades...this is not a question of whether or not he CAN do it...it's that he's NOT doing it and I've been working with him to make sure he does it but there is only so much I can do from home.

The D-bag is just pushing him further and further away and I'm not sure if he realizes that or not. It's sad but the boy will come to his own conclusions about his father and one day will form his own opinions as well...I don't think it will be pretty.

Peace and ear-numbing quiet!

The neighbours FINALLY finished moving out on Wednesday night/Thursday morning at like 1:30am (of course we had to get up at 6:30 so I was NOT impressed but didn't say anything because they were GETTING OUT and that was the most important thing).

It is SOOOO wonderful now...no dogs, no kids running back and forth at 11:00 pm, no loud music at any given time and most of all no bitchy teenagers who think the world owe them something giving me the evil eye every time we cross paths!!

I can hear the voices in my head again! (hehe, line from FRIENDS)

Now onto cleaning and organizing and packing my own house. We're moving back to Welland on May 1st. It's a lovely 3 bedroom unit in a four-plex. Full basement with a place that can be a room, laundry hook ups and enough space for a cube freezer and pantry shelves. The main floor is Livingroom, Diningroom and kitchen which is HUGE compared to the little one I have now. There is also a half bath right at the front door...it's TINY but it's nice we won't have to go upstairs everytime we have to use the washroom. Then upstairs is the three bedrooms, full bath and linen closet. Two of the rooms are a really decent size and then the other room, which will be the baby's room (baby's room!!! I've never had a baby's room!!!) is quite a bit smaller but big enough for anything a baby would need a room for.

I'm so excited!! I feel like things are finally moving toward our future. I feel stuck here in Niagara Falls...I don't like it here, the area is not really safe for the kids and all our family and friends except like 2 (mind you they are two of our best friends :( ) are in Welland. This place also has central air which will be nice while I'm nursing a newborn in the middle of July!! We won't stick together like grilled cheese lol!!

Now that we're moving and I have to pack I'm going to do my schooling online (if they ever get around to sending me the email with my passwords) and the first course I'm taking is Grade 11 University Prep English. I have all of my compulsory credits already so I was able to just take whatever I wanted. I'm good with English so I figured, why not. Eventually if I do go to college or whatever I'm probably just going to take something to do with Office Admin anyway because that's what I do best.

Now on to the not so good stuff. My eldest's dad is moving an hour and a half away from me. Which you would think, being that we don't get along, would be a good thing. But it's not, only for one reason...

Our current court order states that I am to "pick up the child at the respondants residence at the end of all access periods".

Yeah...and he's holding me to it. The jerk expecting me to drive at least 3 hours round trip every Sunday except one a month to pick him up at his dads. This are financially tight as it is right now and we just can't afford to add a tank of gas every weekend to the budget.

I have filed court papers which I have to serve tonight and our court date is not until May 6th . Yeah. THREE MONTHS AWAY!!!! They're moving NEXT WEEK!!! I have spoken to a lawyer and he said if I DON'T drive I can be held in contempt of court. Ugh.

So I also filed for an urgent motion to change this arrangement because I don't want to be held in contempt of court and so hopefully the judge will approve my request and we can get in there within two weeks.

I really don't think it should be my responsibility to drive whether I have the money or not being that he's the one who is deciding to move. He tried to counter with the fact that I'm moving back to Welland so "what would be the difference?"....ummmm....the fact that Welland is TWENTY MINUTES AWAY....not an hour and a half!!! And not only that when the court order was written...I LIVED IN WELLAND!!! He can be a real dip sometimes...

Anyway, I'll keep you updated on that...I'll stop rambling about it now because I could go on and on!!!!

Have a great weekend!!!